A NICU mom is choosing whether to rest and let her body heal or venture down long halls to sit in uncomfortable chairs and (maybe) snuggle her child with cords. Sometimes the snuggling isn’t even an option and she watches, through an isolet, as she hopes her baby hears her voice and feels her love.
Where can you learn about postpartum? The topic is often brushed over. This has an effect on the whole family as men and women alike struggle to understand the complexity of this time. The lack of knowledge, understanding and normalization overflows to our homes, workplaces, community settings, and screens.
After my first baby, I didn’t know where to look for resources. I didn’t know where I could turn for a look at honest motherhood and postpartum. I didn’t know it was okay to not be okay. I thought I had to fight like hell to have it all “put together” and I was so tired and worn from it. Now I know there are resources out there and you deserve to know about them too.
This is a time that is full of transformation for a woman and yet we so often hear “Oh, she’s just so emotional.” Or we even say it ourselves “Don’t mind me, I’m just emotional.” While there is some jest in the extremities we can experience, it doesn’t change the reality that these emotions are a biological response and are often telling us something important.
Being a new mom is full of transitions and emotions. The last thing we need is for a new mom to feel defeated and like she has done something wrong… can we agree on that?
From my own experience, and the conversations with clients and friends, I’m breaking down 5 Unhelpful Things We Say to New Moms.