How Young Families Can Find Connection Amid Political Tension

In a time when so many of us feel pulled apart by politics or differences, having a supportive community matters even more. For anyone who’s felt left out, especially after stepping away from traditional spaces like church, it’s totally normal to feel frustrated or lonely. But building community and creating new connections whether close to home or online can make a huge difference.

In these politically polarized times, it can feel incredibly isolating to be disconnected from your family or previous friends. Political differences, especially around hot-button topics, often push people apart rather than bringing them together. This sense of separation can be especially hard for young families who already feel stretched thin with the demands of parenting, work, and daily life.

As a coach for parents and partners, I hear a lot of your stories and experiences. Many have shared that the political divide has made them feel like strangers in their own circles—once supportive relationships now feeling strained or even broken. It’s not just about political disagreement; it’s about the loss of community and the deep emotional toll of feeling unsupported or judged by those who once felt like home. Building community in tense times is how we work for a more supported future.

The Impact of Isolation and Loss of Community

Studies show that isolation, especially when it's rooted in these deep personal connections, can negatively affect mental health, making it harder to navigate the challenges of raising a family. This is why prioritizing supportive communities where you can be seen, heard, and cared for is essential in today’s world. Without it, the loneliness only deepens, but with it, you have the power to rebuild meaningful connections that nourish you and your family.

Let’s talk about some simple steps to build a strong community that feels real, safe, and supportive.

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Why Building Community is a Lifeline Right Now

Good friends and solid support make us feel stronger, help us laugh more, and keep us going when life gets hard. Research shows that people with close communities feel happier and less stressed. Community also gives us a safe space to share what matters most, celebrate wins, and work toward change together.

If you’re feeling alone right now, especially if you’re redefining your values, know that you’re not alone in that. It takes time, but with each small step, you’ll find people and be building community around those who understand where you’re coming from.

1. Start with Neighbors and Local Meetups

• Check Out Local Events: Look at apps like Meetup or even Facebook for nearby gatherings. Go to the library, join a book club, or attend a free class in your area.
• Volunteer Together: Helping out at local events or shelters is a great way to meet people who share similar values.

2. Create or Join Online Support Circles

• Find Online Groups: Facebook and other apps have groups for almost everything. Join ones that feel supportive to you.
• Host Virtual Hangouts: Can’t meet in person? Host virtual coffee chats with like-minded folks. Keep it light and simple—just a space to be yourself. Here are a couple of Facebook groups I feel encouraged by:
  The New Evangelicals
  Raising Children UnFundamentalist
  
• Take Online Classes: Sometimes joining a class online comes with a built-in community. Choose one with active discussion groups.

3. Strike Up Conversations in Everyday Places

• Chat Where You Are: Try sparking small talk with people at the park, the store, or at school events. Even just saying “hi” can create a connection. Remember, most of us are looking for more connection and the worst thing that can happen is you strike up a conversation and realize it's not a great fit. It's worth the awkward risk.
• Find Family Support Groups: Local playgroups, parent networks, or support groups can help you connect with other families who understand your life right now.

4. Share Your Story to Attract Like-Minded People

• Be Real and Honest: Sharing your journey, especially if you’re feeling isolated, can resonate with others. Tell your story—it might help others feel less alone, too. This could be a great outlet for writing or creating.
• Create Your Own Group: Can’t find what you’re looking for? Create it! A small group around a shared interest can grow into something powerful. Usually we don't need 20 people to get together, it takes a handful of 3-5 to really create a meaningful connection. The power of having these people to turn to and lean on is crucial for you and your family.

5. Grow Community with Small Acts of Care

• Be There for Others, and Let Them Be There for You: Building a support network is about giving and receiving. Start with small acts—like offering a meal or asking for a helping hand. Maybe you see that a family in your neighborhood has a baby- do a porch drop off of food with a kind note.
• Plan Regular Meet-ups: Set up regular get-togethers, even if it’s virtual. Consistency builds a sense of trust and connection.

Community is Stronger Together

When we find people we can lean on, we feel safer, more seen and more heard. And as communities get stronger, they can become forces for good in the world. By being open, listening, and lifting each other up, we’re creating a ripple effect of positive change. Together, we can work towards a better, kinder world for everyone.

For many of you, you might be figuring out your values and priorities in the midst of finding community. Getting clear about this, building your family and teamwork around it, and letting that lead your community is part of what I help my clients do. If you're feeling wobbly on this and could use support, accountability, and a place to bounce ideas and get new tools in your toolkit- explore coaching with me.

Building Community In Tense Times is Worth It

Building community is a journey, especially when you feel like you're creating it from scratch. But every small connection, every conversation, and every act of care is a step toward building a place where you can feel truly at home. It may take a little time, but you’re getting closer to finding “your people”—the ones who lift you up and have your back. Together, we’re stronger and ready to make a difference.