Have you ever felt disconnected from your partner due to anger or feeling like things are unfair? Have you found yourself distancing because you feel overloaded with things while it doesn't seem like your partner is? Do you find yourself scoffing or saying things like "Well at least you get to___" or "Wouldn't it be [...]
A lot of women find themselves confused and feeling isolated when it comes to the conversation of sex after baby. Who can you talk to about sex when you’re a new mom? Can you bring it up at playgroup or with your friends? Women feel like they should be ready, even if they aren’t. This leaves new moms wondering if they’ve done something wrong, if their body is “broken” or if they are disappointing their partner.
When you are having sex after birth, you might notice that your vagina is dry. Vaginal dryness can happen for a number of reasons. For postpartum women, it is related to hormones. While many postpartum women experience vaginal dryness, it is even more common for women who are breastfeeding. Finding a lube for postpartum sex [...]
And baby makes three. The birth of a new baby brings changes to a couple, both the new mom and the new dad. While both science and society are still exploring what it means to be a new parent in 2021, there are many things we know but are not discussed. At Postpartum Together we [...]
What are family values? They are the collective values that guide you as a family unit. Knowing your family values can be the key to success and growth with your people. If you do not know what is guiding your decisions and actions, how do you expect to move in the direction you want? In [...]
In a relationship, communication is key. However, most people are not taught their processing and communication styles. This can lead to misunderstanding and conflict, especially if you and your partner have a different communication style. What is an internal and external processor? An internal processor is someone who thinks to talk. He will likely spend [...]
Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com At every point in your relationship, it is important to understand yourself and your partner. You need to know how you communicate and understand your needs. And, you need to know how your partner communicates their needs. Having a knowledge of the 5 love languages allows you to get a [...]
Being the default parent means that care and decisions default to you. Some may use the term "primary parent." When discussing this, we are referring to the mental, physical, emotional, and logistical care that goes into parenthood and how that may or may not be split between parents in a partnership. If you are feeling like you are the "default parent" you might say or feel things like:
Now, after having a baby, so much is different. Unfortunately, it’s easier to access messages that tell us “how to bounce back” or “how to lose the baby weight fast” than it is to learn about the changes that have happened in our bodies and the ways to nurture and heal them with intention and grace.
Have you ever felt mean or even “bitchy” for needing and setting boundaries? Especially as women, we are often raised to be people pleasers. And yet, this is exhausting and doesn’t take our needs and desires into consideration. It is important to be a kind and giving person, but in order to truly do that, you need to establish boundaries.
By being purposeful about communicating your postpartum experience to your partner, you can improve the postpartum relationship and be a team in postpartum recovery.
These 5 communication tips just might help you increase understanding, decrease assumptions, be efficient and purposeful and enjoy your time together as a family more and be a team with your partner.
